Safety Policy

Last updated 28 October 2026

Thrive puts you in a room with people you do not know — in games, at venues, on plans, and in Connect. Most of the time that is the point. This page is about the times it is not.

It covers how to report someone, what we do about it, how to look after yourself online and when meeting in person, how to spot a romance scam, and where to get help. It is also our safety policy for the purposes of Connecticut Public Act 23-56 and the Colorado Online Dating Services Safety Act.

How to report someone, and what happens next

You can block or report anyone, anywhere you can see them. Press and hold their message in a plan chat or their name in a game lobby; tap “Block or report” on a Connect profile, in a Connect chat, or on the Bar / Club screen when you have been sent to find someone.

Blocking is immediate and works in both directions. They disappear from your Connect deck and chats, their messages stop being shown to you in plan chats, any friendship between you ends, and a Bar / Club night will never pair the two of you again — including ending a hunt already in progress.

Reporting is separate, and you can do both. A report asks you why, and that reason and the account you reported are recorded for us to review. Reports are read by a person. We may warn or remove an account, and we keep a report even if you later delete your own account, because a safety record should not vanish when someone leaves.

We cannot remove somebody from a room they are physically standing in. If you are at a venue and someone is making you uncomfortable, tell the venue staff — that is faster and more effective than anything an app can do. If you are in danger, call your local emergency number.

If a report needs more than the in-app flow allows, or you want to talk to a person about something that happened, write to management@dineri.info.

What is not allowed here

Harassment, threats, intimidation, or persisting with contact after someone has made clear they are not interested. Hate speech or abuse directed at who someone is. Sexual content sent to someone who did not ask for it. Sharing anyone’s private information, photographs or messages without their agreement.

Pressuring anyone to drink, to keep playing, to take a dare, to go somewhere, or to do anything they have said no to. A game is a game; “it was a dare” is not a defence.

Impersonating someone else, using photographs that are not of you, lying about your age, or holding more than one account. Asking other users for money, investments, or financial help of any kind.

Any conduct that threatens personal or public safety, including violence, stalking, or tracking someone’s location without their knowledge.

Sexual conduct with another person without that person’s consent violates this policy, and it is a crime. It can lead to criminal prosecution and civil liability, entirely separately from anything we do about the account. Consent cannot be given by someone who is incapacitated, and it can be withdrawn at any point.

Background checks: we do not do them

Thrive does not run criminal background checks, identity verification, or screening of any kind on members, and we do not exclude people on the basis of criminal convictions. We are telling you this plainly because you should know it when deciding how much to trust someone here.

What we do check is age: sign-up asks for your date of birth and refuses an account under 18, and we also ask your phone — Apple or Google — which age band your account is in. If your phone reports the account as under 18 we will not let sign-up finish.

Nobody on Thrive has been vetted. Treat everyone here as a stranger until you have your own reasons not to.

Staying safe while you are talking

Keep it in the app until you want to move it. Messages here are capped and reportable; once you have given someone your number, you have given up both of those.

Be slow with identifying details. Where you work, which gym you use, your street, your surname, your children’s school — none of it is needed to find out whether you like someone, and all of it is useful to someone who means harm.

Photographs tell more than you intend. A picture taken outside your front door says where you live.

Trust discomfort. You do not owe anyone an explanation, a reply, or another chance. Blocking does not require justification.

If someone pushes to leave the app immediately, resists a video call, or has an answer for everything that cannot be checked, slow down.

Meeting in person

Meet somewhere public the first time, and get yourself there and back under your own arrangements. Being collected means they know where you live and you cannot leave when you want to.

Tell somebody where you are going, who with, and when you expect to be back. Send them the person’s profile.

Keep your drink with you, and order it yourself. Expect to pay your own way so that nothing feels owed.

Stay sober enough to make decisions and to leave. Thrive has drinking games and venue nights in it; none of that is a reason to be somewhere you cannot get out of.

Leave whenever you want, for any reason or none. If leaving feels difficult, tell staff at the venue — bars and clubs deal with this regularly and would far rather help.

Bar / Club nights pair you with another guest to find in the room. That person is a stranger who happens to be at the same venue, not someone we have vetted. The same advice applies.

Romance scams

A romance scam is someone building a relationship with you in order to take your money. It is the most common serious harm on dating apps, and it works on careful people, because it is patient.

What it looks like: feelings that escalate far too fast, and talk of love within days. A reason they can never video call, or meet, or be where they say they are — working offshore, deployed, a doctor abroad. Early insistence on moving to WhatsApp, Telegram or email, away from anywhere a report could be made.

Then a crisis. A medical bill, a customs charge, a frozen account, a flight they cannot afford, a sick relative. Or the other version: an investment, usually crypto, that has been very good to them and could be good to you. Sometimes a small withdrawal works first, to prove it is real.

The rule that defeats almost all of it: never send money, gift cards, crypto, or bank details to somebody you have not met in person. Not as a loan, not briefly, not to help. Do not move money on anyone else’s behalf — that is money laundering, and the charge lands on you.

Reverse-image search their photographs. Scam profiles reuse pictures, and a few seconds often ends it.

If it has already happened: it is not your fault, and you are one of very many. Stop contact, report the account here, tell your bank immediately, and report it to the authorities — in the US, reportfraud.ftc.gov and ic3.gov; in the UK, Action Fraud on 0300 123 2040. Money reported quickly is sometimes recoverable.

Where to get help

If you are in immediate danger, call your local emergency number — 911 in the United States, 999 in the United Kingdom, 112 across the European Union.

United States. National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233 (thehotline.org), free and confidential, 24 hours. RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline, 1-800-656-4673 (rainn.org), 24 hours. Report fraud at reportfraud.ftc.gov and ic3.gov.

Colorado. Colorado Crisis Services, 1-844-493-8255 (coloradocrisisservices.org), 24 hours.

Connecticut. Connecticut Alliance to End Sexual Violence, 1-888-999-5545 (endsexualviolencect.org). Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 1-888-774-2900 (ctcadv.org). Both free, confidential and 24 hours.

United Kingdom, domestic abuse. All free and 24 hours. England: 0808 2000 247 (nationaldahelpline.org.uk). Scotland: 0800 027 1234 (sdafmh.org.uk). Wales, Live Fear Free: 0808 80 10 800 (gov.wales/live-fear-free). Northern Ireland: 0808 802 1414 (dsahelpline.org).

United Kingdom, sexual violence and fraud. Rape Crisis England & Wales, 0808 500 2222 (rapecrisis.org.uk), 24 hours. Rape Crisis Scotland, 08088 01 03 02 (rapecrisisscotland.org.uk), every day 6pm to midnight — outside those hours the Scotland line above is open. Action Fraud, 0300 123 2040.

Ireland. Women’s Aid, 1800 341 900 (womensaid.ie). Rape Crisis Help, 1800 778 888 (drcc.ie).

European Union. Victim support line 116 006, and women’s helpline 116 016. Both are reserved across the EU but not yet live in every member state — wave-network.org/find-help lists what is actually running in each of the 27.

Anywhere else. findahelpline.com lists verified crisis and support lines in around 130 countries.

These are independent organisations, not part of Thrive. We do not see that you contacted them.

What we do to make this safer

Thrive is for over-18s, and that is enforced rather than asked: sign-up refuses a date of birth under 18, the date cannot be changed afterwards by the account holder, and we check the age band your phone reports. Connect will not match anyone whose age we do not hold.

Block and report are available on every surface where you can encounter someone you do not know, and blocking is enforced on the server — in matching, in messaging, in plan chats, and in Bar / Club pairing.

If we ban an account because we believe it was using a false identity, or trying to get money out of people, we tell everyone it had been messaging. The notice names the account so you know which conversation it was, says plainly never to send money or financial details to anyone you have not met, and links to advice on avoiding online fraud. It goes out within a day of the ban. It is not a notification setting and you cannot switch it off.

A banned account is shut out, not just hidden. It cannot be found in Connect, join a game or a plan, message anyone — including people it had already added as friends — be added by its Friend ID, or be given a friend’s phone number.

Your exact location is never shown to anyone. Other people see a rounded distance. Plans appear on the map at a deliberately offset point, never the real address.

You choose whether you are discoverable in Connect at all, how far away people can find you, whether your age is shown, and whether friends can see your phone number. Your phone number is never shared unless you switch that on.

Venues that run Bar / Club nights give us their name, address and contact details, and we review each one before its first night. A night cannot run until we have approved it. That is a reasonable-steps check on the details given to us; it is not an inspection, and it is not us vouching for the venue.

We do not sell your data, we do not share it with advertisers, and there is no advertising SDK in the app.

About this policy

This policy forms part of our Terms of Service, and applies to everyone using Thrive anywhere in the world.

It is published here, in the app under Profile → Safety, and on the web alongside our Privacy Policy and Terms.

Questions, or anything you think is missing: management@dineri.info.